Disclaimer

While Feminism studies were a component of my Bachelor’s Degree in Political Science and continued to be a part of my Master’s Degree in Management when discussing gender issues in the workplace, note that I’m not an expert on the history of feminism. I’m just quite passionate about observing its existence and its effects. If I’m missing any important information, kindly let me know.

Happy International Women’s Day

I’m here to highlight (again) that the day should be the day for us to celebrate how far human rights have been made available for women especially in voting, having the same level of education, and being allowed to own businesses and properties, etc under their names. 

The Extreme Feminist and Anti-Feminist Movements

I am well aware of the extreme feminist and anti-feminist movements, and I find myself in the middle—reluctant to take sides, as both factions have their own flaws that are detrimental to human civilization.

The Extreme Feminist

The extreme feminists point out that men are the problem, and they advocate for women not depending on men at all. Consequently, these women may choose to remain single, thereby preventing potentially meaningful connections. If they are in a relationship, they insist on a 50-50 arrangement for everything, proudly showcasing their capability to earn as much as men.

Broke men and below-the-bare-minimum-effort men love this type of feminist as this makes their lives so much easier and cheaper. However, it also leaves them feeling emasculated and, eventually, depressed. More details about this will be explained in the “The Problem With Being Too Much in the Masculine… Or Feminine Energy” section below.

The Anti Feminist

Anti-feminists dislike the idea of going 50-50 and argue that feminism is the problem. They believe that feminism disrupts the traditional family structure, asserting that splitting everything equally, 50-50, is the dumbest idea ever, as women end up paying more on the non-material side. According to them, men are supposed to provide for women, enabling women to focus on being good mothers and wives.

The Anti-Feminist Blunder

Some anti-feminist women would downgrade themselves, claiming that they are subordinates to men as long as the men provide for them.

One of them, Pearl Davis, even states that women shouldn’t have the right to vote as the government system caters for women, especially single mothers, at the expense of men.

It’s Not at the Expense of Men Because…

I strongly disagree with Davis’ view on ‘at the expense of men’ because having children is always at the expense of women: physically and mentally, including all the uncomfortableness and sickness due to pregnancy, the physical pain and immense frustration during childbirth, the forever scars, the permanent decline in some organ functionalities after childbirth, the emotional pain of postpartum, and all of these often come with abuse and/or neglect, both mentally and physically, from their men.

The Similarities Between Anti-Feminists and Extreme Feminists

The only similarity that the anti-feminists and the extreme feminists have in common is that both sides see equality as the ability to do the same exact thing, disregarding the unique differences between men and women.

Equality has been seen from the wrong perspective.

Fire and Water

Without taking into account that everything has its own nuances, seeing equality from the wrong perspective is a big issue. It’s like saying water (women) must be able to do what fire (men) can do.

With this belief, that women can’t do what men can do, the anti-feminists want to place women back to being subordinates to men.

Again, it is important to note that just because water cannot do what fire can do, doesn’t mean water should be treated as fire’s subordinate. Yes, fire can boil water. But while water cannot be used to burn anything, water helps plants grow, it cleans, refreshes, and of course, it can also extinguish fire.

What if Women Were Back to Being the Second-Class Citizens

While I disagree that men are at a disadvantageous position with the progress of women being allowed to vote, own properties, etc, I can’t help wondering what it would look like if we were all back to the era before the suffragette and feminism existed. Where women were still treated as second-class citizens, not allowed to vote, not have the same level of education and not allowed to own properties under their name. What would happen to women who wanted to contribute their talents and expertise to human civilisation in general, not just limited to their families?

Have-To-Life Is the Worse Way to Live

What would happen to women who were just not wired to be a mother or a wife as they were simply not interested? Just because you have a womb, doesn’t mean you have to have a child. I mean, most people have two legs, but that doesn’t mean they must become marathon runners. Just because they can, doesn’t mean they should. There’s nothing worse than living in a ‘have-to’ mentality and not a ‘want-to’ mentality.

The Feminine-Masculine Principles

For the past 11 months, I’ve heard, read, and learned more about feminine and masculine energy, which is often associated with the Yin-Yang philosophy from ancient Chinese traditions, depicting the interplay and balance of opposing forces. 

This concept gained prominence in the Western world, notably through the works of John Gray, who popularised the idea in his book “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.” The book explores the differences between men and women, emphasising the need for understanding and appreciating the unique energies each gender brings to relationships.

What Went Wrong With The Feminine-Masculine Principles

Back in the days before the suffragette and feminism were born, women were the ‘properties’ of men. Subhuman. As mentioned above, this means they were not allowed to have the same level of education, no voting rights, not allowed to have any properties under their names and many other restrictions.

The Feminine-Masculine principles were there, but not implemented properly. Women were expected to be in their feminine energy, which was to receive everything, including pain, abuse, and restriction in various aspects of their lives.

From Being Oppressed To Being Passive Aggressive To War

Opressing women is a complete disaster, not just for women, but for boys who were raised by oppressed women. Oppressed women tend to be passive-aggressive, resentful and can be downright toxic to people around them if they force themselves to accept the fact that they’re oppressed without being able to fight back. Resentment due to unreasonable restriction is purely human nature.

This has a domino effect. Toxic parents (men who treat their wives as second-class citizens are toxic, and the wife also becomes toxic as she’s not allowed to express her resentment) raise traumatised and toxic children. Traumatised and toxic children become toxic leaders. Toxic leaders launch wars. Wars destroy Earth, plants, animals, and humans. The worst way to live for everything and everyone.

The True Feminine Masculine Principles

The true feminine-masculine principles are quite simple: 

Feminine energies are receptive, creative, and nurturing and Masculine energies are about action-oriented activities, strength, and assertiveness. 

From a biological perspective, individuals with a 28-day hormonal cycle are associated with feminine energy, while those with a 1-day hormonal cycle are linked to masculine energy.

The 28-hormonal cycle has been associated with the moon. The moon is associated with night and night is associated with sleep and rest. Sleep and rest are associated with healing. These inactions are all Yin Energy: Feminine Energy. Those who were born female would feel happy when they embrace their Yin energy more than their Yang energy.

The 1-day hormonal cycle has been associated with the sun. The sun is associated with day and day is associated with action-oriented activities. These activities are associated with growth. These are all Yang Energy: Masculine Energy. Those who were born male would feel happy when they embrace their Yang energy more than their Yin energy.

The Misunderstanding That Leads To Disaster

Based on the above assumption, that women are the moon and men are the sun, and nothing happens when people sleep and rest in the night (ignoring the fact that resting is one of the most important factors to heal so people can grow), unintelligent individuals (both men and women) naively assume, that the moon is weaker than the sun. That women are weaker than men.

Women’s Resentment and Its Negative Impacts

And because of the naive assumption that women are weaker, women, therefore, should submit to men’s control. This leads to men dictating women’s values, which are based on their usability for men’s advancement and gratification: for bearing and raising their children and for sexual pleasure.

As a result, most women have been trained throughout their childhood to be a good wife and a good mother while also being conditioned to abandon their personal needs and passions. 

While many women happily and lovingly bear and raise their children and also attend to their husband’s sexual needs (because by default, women are nurturing), ignoring women’s needs by restricting them and treating them like second-class citizens makes them feel resentful, consciously or unconsciously. 

Be Feminine… Be Receptive to All the Pain, Abuse and Restrictions!

The naive assumption that women are weaker than men was combined with the incorrect implementation of feminine-masculine dynamics: women are expected to be receptive to everything, including all the pain, abuse and restriction in various aspects of life, making the whole family dynamic toxic as the women would naturally be unhappy with all the abuse, pain and restriction. Toxic families produce toxic leaders. Toxic leaders launch wars. Now think about it… why did we have so many wars in the past?

Unintelligent Individuals… So Many of Them

Unfortunately, unintelligent individuals still enjoy being unintelligent and there are so many of them, making it hard for humans to progress to the ideal state. Some unintelligent individuals even blame everything on the government, claiming that the government started feminism. They ignore the fact that the government is run by individuals who were once children and may have been fed up with the injustice caused by gender inequality and disparity.

The Proper Implementation of Yin and Yang

The proper implementation of Yin and Yang principles is that to lean into their Yin (Feminine) energy, women should be receptive to love and abundance, not pain, abuse and restriction. 

Receptive to love and abundance, read that again. This means, no more bending over backward to earn love. No more being receptive to pain, abuse and restrictions.

If we are to discuss the division of household chores, for example, men should not just be the breadwinners, but they should also do more than women, as they have the physical strength to do so. Their hormonal cycle is only one day, while women’s is 28 days.

And since masculine is action-oriented, it makes more sense for men to serve women, not the other way around.

Women have been forced to serve men for centuries, leading to exhaustion and resentment, with the ‘that’s how it’s supposed to be’ ideology being shoved down their throats, ignoring the Yin and Yang principles, and disregarding their biological limitations.

The Problem With Being Too Much in the Masculine… Or Feminine Energy

The world feels so chaotic because women have been treated as subordinates and those who refuse to be subordinates fight back by acting like men, making the whole world dynamic incredibly masculine.

Too much masculine energy leads to burnout.

We have been in the burnout stage for far too long. These days, more and more women choose to opt out of fighting back and prefer to just chill, embracing their feminine energy.

Meanwhile, some (or many?) men listen to advice that is designed for women, ignoring the fact that men and women are different. More and more men also prefer to just chill, embracing their feminine energy, only to later find themselves in the depressive stage. Why? 

Depressed Men and Their Pent-up Masculine Energy

Individuals born with a 1-day hormonal cycle (aka: men), are naturally built with masculine energy, which is action-oriented.

When they don’t let out their masculine energy (e.g. cleaning, washing, high-intensity training, solving problems, repairing and fixing), they become lazy.

When someone is consistently lazy, they avoid engaging in activities that could bring them fulfilment and a sense of accomplishment. This leads to feelings of a lack of purpose which leads to depression.

Furthermore, the pent-up masculine energy leads to poor sleep habits as there’s not enough exhaustion to induce sleepiness. Poor sleep habits lead to more laziness. And so on and so forth.

This vicious cycle is a terrible state for anyone as it leads to long-term depression. Long-term depression can lead to suicidal thoughts, which may lead to actually committing suicide. Not that we should be afraid of death, we are all going to die one day, no exception. But spiritually speaking, death caused by suicide will get a soul stuck in the karma wheel. Anyone stuck in the karma wheel has to reincarnate with the same lessons until the lessons are learned. Not an ideal way to grow spiritually.

Happy Wife, Happy Life

The slogan, “Happy wife, happy life”, suggests that a happy wife contributes to a happier overall life. It’s not just a slogan, it’s fact.

As mentioned above, oppressed women tend to be resentful, and resentful wives/mothers tend to become toxic to the family dynamics that produce toxic children and later, these toxic children may become toxic leaders who can cause various human-made, unnecessary disasters. 

The same applies to the opposite: happy wives/mothers are more nurturing, contributing to the family dynamics that produce happy and healthy children and later, become happy and healthy leaders who can prevent various human-made, unnecessary disasters. 

It starts with the family and a healthy family starts with how happy the wife/mother is, and a happy wife/mother starts with how she was raised and later, how her man treats her.  I’m aware that happiness is an inside job, but we should also take into account how the overall environment impacts our happiness level. And we must not underestimate the powerful impact our surroundings have on our happiness.

This is why I strongly believe that women should be taught to love themselves first instead of forcing them to be selfless.

Women Who Become Self-Centred or Choose Self-Isolation

Having witnessed or experienced selflessness has caused some women to convert to the other side, which is becoming self-centred and/or embracing self-isolation instead of having the wisdom of self-love. To read more about the negative impact of selflessness, self-centredness and self-isolation, check out this article (click here to read it).

However, when women are taught to love themselves first (through self-love, not self-centredness), they naturally repel toxic men. There will be no domestic violence. No unhappy women. No children with toxic childhood. This is the start of breaking the vicious cycle we’ve been stuck in for centuries. Survival of the fittest no longer applies. Survival of the wisest is the one needed to bring us all to the ideal state of what human civilisation should look like: no corrupt leaders, no wars, no poverty, and everyone is free to be their best authentic self.

Women Who Prefer to Be Childfree

Women who prefer to go childfree should not be ashamed (or feel ashamed) for not wanting (or not being able to) produce offspring for women’s value should not be based on her womb.

Unfortunately, women who prefer to go childfree tend to be ostracised and labelled as ‘selfish’.

My message to childfree women: enjoy your freedom, prioritise your growth, and inspire those around you to be their best authentic selves. Spiritually speaking, when you’re not wired to have children, you may have a different purpose. Start working on that, start focusing on self-growth instead of self-gratification.

One important note to remember: even though your family or friends may ostracise you for not having children, know that a scientific study finds that single, childfree women are the happiest and healthiest compared to single men, married men and married women. Married men are happier and healthier than married women and single men.

So should you want to have a man in your life, make sure he adds to your happiness. And if you haven’t found a good man you find attractive, don’t settle. Don’t worry about the stigma of being single and childfree. Your health and happiness should always be your number one priority, and others’ opinions are none of your business as long as you don’t do anything against your own morals and values.

My Message to All Women

I’m well aware that not everyone agrees with my views about the significance of respecting the Yin-Yang principles.

Happy Wife, Happy Life Is Not Just a Slogan

From what I have seen so far, whenever I see a family and the wife/mother is the recipient of love and abundance from her man, the whole family dynamic feels healthy and looks a lot more pleasant. And therefore there is truth in the saying ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’.

Remove Your Man if He’s Toxic to You

If your man keeps neglecting you, belittling you, putting you down or even downright abusive, get rid of him. Get rid of him from your life, not from the Earth. Murder is wrong. And illegal. Keep your karma clean.

I understand that the idea of removing toxic individuals might sound too simplistic. However, remember that having someone toxic in your life doesn’t just adversely impact your health and happiness; it negatively impacts those around you. Therefore, take charge and stop being receptive to toxicity.

Be Selective About the Men You Allow Into Your Life

Your ability to generate and retain wealth is the second most important aspect, following your health and happiness. It empowers you to be selective about the men you allow into your life. With financial stability, you can confidently avoid toxic men, 50-50 clowns, and those who only make below-the-bare-minimum efforts.

Choose to Stay Single if It Feels More Liberating

Choose to stay single if it feels more liberating. Don’t feel guilty for experiencing relief in your singleness, as it’s a much healthier, happier, and saner choice than being stuck with the wrong man. For this, we must thank the suffragettes and feminists for their hard work in paving the way for women to have their own businesses, properties, credit cards, etc.

Staying single doesn’t mean opening yourself up for casual sex. But if that’s what you want, be fully aware of the consequences. From sexually transmitted diseases to accidentally falling in love without further emotional commitment.

Always prioritise your health and well-being, both physically and emotionally. Be very discerning when it comes to forming intimate connections. Remember, your choices should always align with your values and personal comfort.

I’m not here to judge; I just want you to be aware of the consequences when it comes to sharing your time, energy, and body. Embracing self-growth means recognising that the choices you make today shape the person you become tomorrow. Prioritising meaningful experiences and personal development over instant gratification allows you to build a foundation for a more fulfilled and purposeful existence. It’s a conscious investment in your well-being that echoes positively in the tapestry of your life.

This Is Not to Blame Women

This post is not meant to blame women for the world’s chaos but rather, to emphasise the importance of understanding and embracing the Yin-Yang principles properly.

The emphasis needs to be noted as women have been conditioned to be selfless, prioritising others’ needs and abandoning theirs. Not to mention many of them are still expected to be quiet when it comes to receiving pain, abuse, and restriction in various aspects of their lives.

Have More Female Friends

Last but not least: women, cultivate female friendships to embrace more of the Yin energy, especially when we’ve been surrounded by the intensity of Yang energy for far too long.

Navigating and sustaining female friendships can be daunting, given that some (or many?) women have experienced setbacks with at least one woman. However, these challenges shouldn’t hinder you from fostering meaningful connections with other women.

Connecting with other women, especially with women who work on self-healing and self-growth instead of self-gratification provides not only pleasant companionship but also valuable support and understanding, contributing to a richer and more fulfilling life, which ultimately enhances your overall well-being.

My Message to All Men

If you have an unhappy wife/girlfriend, serve her, make her happy and see how your life changes into a much better one. As long as you don’t abandon your wellbeing. And if you don’t like/love her anymore, please let her go so she can be with the right man and you can be with the right woman.

If you’re single and happy being single, carry on, enjoy your singledom.

If you’re single and unhappy, please don’t get involved in misogynistic movements. It’s harmful to your wellbeing. Besides, what kind of life would that be when you’re full of hatred, waking up with hatred, going to bed with hatred? Despite the existence of misogynistic movements, the world is now recognising the strength of the Yin (feminine) energy, and there’s no turning back. Balance must prevail. So your hatred is nothing but just a harmful substance in your immune system.

If you’re single and looking but not a good man yet, work on yourself to be a good man. Step up and be a good man: protector and provider. More and more women have now become aware that they deserve good men and they’d rather stay single than be with a below-the-bare-minimum-effort man or 50-50 clown. If you insist on 50-50, see it in the long term (10-20 years) and kindly let me know how it goes.

As someone who has been observing human behaviour for more than 20 years, a woman who’s in a 50-50 relationship or a relationship with a below-the-bare-minimum-effort man will lose respect over time. This phenomenon contributes to the increasing number of women filing for divorce. It’s not solely attributed to instances of abuse; it’s also a result of a lack of love. When a woman stops respecting her partner, it becomes challenging to sustain love for him.

If you’re single and you believe you’re a good man but no woman reciprocates yet, be patient. Just keep on building your life so that it’s much easier for a woman to see how you can make her life easier, which in turn, makes your life happier. Win win.

Conclusion

International Women’s Day is a day to remind all of us how far we humans have progressed by giving women the same human rights as men, especially in voting, having the same level of education, and being allowed to own businesses, properties, etc, under their names. 

However, it’s important to respect our differences by embracing the Yin Yang principles properly where women are to be the recipients of love and abundance instead of pain, abuse and restriction.

Furthermore, equality doesn’t mean the ability to do the same exact thing. Equality means recognising the strengths of each element without putting one element under the control of the other. Fire can boil water. But while water cannot be used to burn anything it can extinguish fire. Water is not inferior to fire.

Also, since men are naturally more action-oriented and are physically stronger, it makes more sense that men are to serve women and not the other way around. And to do this, we must first stop treating women as subordinates to men. 

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY!🌊🌙💃

MAY THE PROGRESS OF HAVING MORE HAPPY AND HEALTHY WOMEN CONTINUE!