A friend of mine visits his elderly mother every week and notices that the aged care home she’s in has many old people who are alone, and many of them look like they have no will to live. While feeling sad after hearing this and wanting to entertain them all, I also begin to plan what I’m going to do should I live in an aged care home one day (if I’m still alive). Here is my weekly plan:
Valentine’s Day… Love Day… a reminder to love yourself by being accountable: are you with the right partner? Are your needs met or do you ignore your needs just to make your partner happy? Or should you stay single forever?
According to Jung’s theory, when we don’t like someone or certain people, it’s because there are aspects in them that trigger our shadow self, the part we try to hide from other people. However, I figured that the shadow-self theory is not the only reason when it comes to disliking or hating people. These will always be reasons – known or unknown – for people to dislike other people. They always exist. But acknowledging them is not enough. We have to know how to deal with them.
The above quote came from Rumi, a 13th Century Persian poet, a Sufi mystic, who is also one of the most popular poets and ‘best-selling poet’ in the United States. While the quote can easily be interpreted differently, the meaning that I’ve understood so far is that, in the end, when our heart is broken, again and again, we’ll reach to a point where we end up opening our heart… to ourselves.
To most people, crying is a big no-no. We are trained not to cry. We are trained to soothe other people who are crying by comforting them, confronting them, or diverting their sadness, just for them to stop crying. Despite the tendency of seeing crying as something negative, there have been studies showing the benefits of emotional crying.
Every human being experiences at least one emotional wound throughout their life. But if this wound is not resolved, not only it will impede their potential, but it will also be destructive over time.
If you ask me: “Are video games good or bad?”, as a gamer, I’d answer: “Of course good.” But my common sense would say, “Depends. Like anything in life, anything can be good or bad depending on how you use it.”
Being happy is always a good feeling. Therefore, when faced with uncomfortable feelings, we often just get up and distract ourselves, hoping the uncomfortable feeling would go away. Because after all, happiness is a choice, right? We can choose to be happy. So what happens to the repressed feelings?
Single people who live alone are among the loneliest during the lockdown. Some experience depression, some experience anxiety, some have the combo of both, and some simply experience boredom. So in case you’re back to the lockdown restriction, you need to know what to do to make you feel better when you’re alone. Here is a list of activities that may help lonely people to lighten up.
Ever heard some wise sayings about not to get attached to the outcome and just enjoy the moment? I have. Often. As a goal-oriented enthusiast who’s passionately searching for better self-improvement, of course I have difficulty digesting this slogan. The above slogan seems to be mindless and irresponsible.
