Whenever I hear or read peopleās obsession with happiness, that their lifeās purpose is to be happy, Iād almost instantly go āughā.Ā Donāt get me wrong. I donāt hate happiness. Happiness is important, but itās not the endgame. The endgame should always be to realise our full potential, where happiness serves as a gauge of how close we are to realising our full potential.Ā
Celebrating International Women’s Day doesn’t divide humans based on gender. Celebrating it means we appreciate all women’s struggles so far to achieve the freedom all humans should have.
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone: single, coupled, tripled, whatever and wherever you are. Here are some tips for you who celebrate or don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day.
Self-love is important for our well-being. Not loving ourselves will eventually harm our mental health and ultimately affect our physical health. Loving ourselves is not only good for our well-being, but itās also good for those whom we care about, as we have more energy and positive thoughts when dealing with them. Here Are 8 Practical Tips on How to Practice Self-Love
Over the past few weeks, through my own experiences, friends’ experiences, and some people in the forum I volunteer, I learned a few important lessons:
The Golden Rule is a life philosophy that states āDo unto others as you would have them do unto you.āĀ From Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, Christianity, Islam, to BahĆ”Ź¼Ć Faith and many other religious and spiritual teachings, the Golden Rule seems to be the be-all-end-all approach for life. It is meant to inspire us to treat others the way we want to be treated. But why is it a problem for some, no, many people? What’s wrong with it? Here is why:
How do you feel when someone tells you, ālook at the bright side, you still have a roof over your headā right after you let them know about a distressing event that has happened or is happening to you?Ā Some of you who hate life (and people) may feel homicidal and perhaps also suicidal, as you already see life as something negative. You don’t care about anything good in life anymore. You may even feel like slapping anyone who tells you to be grateful for being alive. An interesting question may be, why bother practising gratitude at all? What are the benefits? The next equally interesting question would be, how to practise gratitude when everything sucks?
Many of us, when weāve done something embarrassing, unpleasant, or are simply having negative thoughts, often judge ourselves harshly, which inevitably makes us feel worse. Those who choose not to judge end up suppressing or repressing their āunpleasant partsā, not wanting to admit the existence of the unpleasant parts, let alone deal with them. These repressed unpleasant parts grow into what Carl Jung calls āshadowsā. Over time, these shadows leak through snarky comments here and there or unexplained hatred towards innocent people. What I suggest is, if we are to judge ourselves, we should go ahead and judge ourselves. But we should do it properly: go all the way setting a court with at least three people in it: a judge, a plaintiff, a defendant. And probably some police officers, just in case the plaintiff or defendant gets into a fistfight or something.Ā
The aim of this post is to introduce you to the basic concept of manipulation. Itās not designed to hate manipulators (as all of us can be potential manipulators), but rather to understand why they are what they are, do what they do, and how they operate. It may help you avoid getting manipulated and avoid manipulating people intentionally or unintentionally.
These days, there have been many articles suggesting that we have a social media break. Or even further: delete our social media accounts altogether. My personal opinion about social media has been the same since 2008: itās like a sharp knife. Just because itās a sharp knife doesnāt mean itās dangerous. Depending on how we hold and use it, a sharp knife can be extremely useful.
