All about improving ourselves to be better humans
The topic of parents hating their children or vice versa has been taboo. All parents are expected to love their children unconditionally and so are the children. Through this post, I hope I can shed some light on this unpopular topic, about what to do when your parents hate/dislike you.
I believe the most painful rejection is the one that comes from lovers who seems to accept us at first, then later expels us. There are various reasons why someone rejects someone. In this post, I’ll discuss one possible reason someone may reject you: that you’re simply not their type. What to do with this type of rejection?
Humans are social creatures and enjoy socialising with other human beings. But many of us blindly assume that humans need to socialise all the time and therefore, being alone is often seen as being lonely. While being alone and being lonely can easily overlap, there’s a difference.
I wrote about being in touch with our uncomfortable emotions, but there are times when it’s too much and we just need an instant distraction to alleviate the uncomfortable emotions. Below are 8 ways you can use to evoke joy almost instantly, especially after a highly stressful day:
Valentine’s Day… Love Day… a reminder to love yourself by being accountable: are you with the right partner? Are your needs met or do you ignore your needs just to make your partner happy? Or should you stay single forever?
According to Jung’s theory, when we don’t like someone or certain people, it’s because there are aspects in them that trigger our shadow self, the part we try to hide from other people. However, I figured that the shadow-self theory is not the only reason when it comes to disliking or hating people. These will always be reasons – known or unknown – for people to dislike other people. They always exist. But acknowledging them is not enough. We have to know how to deal with them.
The above quote came from Rumi, a 13th Century Persian poet, a Sufi mystic, who is also one of the most popular poets and ‘best-selling poet’ in the United States. While the quote can easily be interpreted differently, the meaning that I’ve understood so far is that, in the end, when our heart is broken, again and again, we’ll reach to a point where we end up opening our heart… to ourselves.
To most people, crying is a big no-no. We are trained not to cry. We are trained to soothe other people who are crying by comforting them, confronting them, or diverting their sadness, just for them to stop crying. Despite the tendency of seeing crying as something negative, there have been studies showing the benefits of emotional crying.
Every human being experiences at least one emotional wound throughout their life. But if this wound is not resolved, not only it will impede their potential, but it will also be destructive over time.
If you ask me: “Are video games good or bad?”, as a gamer, I’d answer: “Of course good.” But my common sense would say, “Depends. Like anything in life, anything can be good or bad depending on how you use it.”
