Happy Valentine’s Day everyone: single, coupled, tripled, whatever and wherever you are. Here are some tips for you who celebrate or don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day.
Category: Serious Stuff
This section is mainly for the observation and thoughts I have about life and people. In a mindful, serious manner. Mostly.
How to Practice Self-Love: 8 Practical Tips
Self-love is important for our well-being. Not loving ourselves will eventually harm our mental health and ultimately affect our physical health. Loving ourselves is not only good for our well-being, but it’s also good for those whom we care about, as we have more energy and positive thoughts when dealing with them. Here Are 8 Practical Tips on How to Practice Self-Love
Things I’ve Learned Lately About People, Including Me
Over the past few weeks, through my own experiences, friends’ experiences, and some people in the forum I volunteer, I learned a few important lessons:
The Problem with the Golden Rule
The Golden Rule is a life philosophy that states “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” From Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, Christianity, Islam, to Baháʼí Faith and many other religious and spiritual teachings, the Golden Rule seems to be the be-all-end-all approach for life. It is meant to inspire us to treat others the way we want to be treated. But why is it a problem for some, no, many people? What’s wrong with it? Here is why:
How to Practice Gratitude When You Think Everything Sucks
How do you feel when someone tells you, “look at the bright side, you still have a roof over your head” right after you let them know about a distressing event that has happened or is happening to you? Some of you who hate life (and people) may feel homicidal and perhaps also suicidal, as you already see life as something negative. You don’t care about anything good in life anymore. You may even feel like slapping anyone who tells you to be grateful for being alive. An interesting question may be, why bother practising gratitude at all? What are the benefits? The next equally interesting question would be, how to practise gratitude when everything sucks?
Don’t Judge Ourselves? We Should! But Do It Properly!
Many of us, when we’ve done something embarrassing, unpleasant, or are simply having negative thoughts, often judge ourselves harshly, which inevitably makes us feel worse. Those who choose not to judge end up suppressing or repressing their ‘unpleasant parts’, not wanting to admit the existence of the unpleasant parts, let alone deal with them. These repressed unpleasant parts grow into what Carl Jung calls “shadows”. Over time, these shadows leak through snarky comments here and there or unexplained hatred towards innocent people. What I suggest is, if we are to judge ourselves, we should go ahead and judge ourselves. But we should do it properly: go all the way setting a court with at least three people in it: a judge, a plaintiff, a defendant. And probably some police officers, just in case the plaintiff or defendant gets into a fistfight or something.
How to Not Get Manipulated
The aim of this post is to introduce you to the basic concept of manipulation. It’s not designed to hate manipulators (as all of us can be potential manipulators), but rather to understand why they are what they are, do what they do, and how they operate. It may help you avoid getting manipulated and avoid manipulating people intentionally or unintentionally.
Social Media: How to Use It to Your Advantage
These days, there have been many articles suggesting that we have a social media break. Or even further: delete our social media accounts altogether. My personal opinion about social media has been the same since 2008: it’s like a sharp knife. Just because it’s a sharp knife doesn’t mean it’s dangerous. Depending on how we hold and use it, a sharp knife can be extremely useful.
Should You Have Children: Traditionalist Parents, Childfree and Antinatalism Point of Views
Why do people want to have children? Why don’t people want to have children? In this post, I’d like to share what I’ve observed so far about the views of the Traditionalist parents, childfree supporters, and the Antinatalist community on whether or not people should have children. I will also share my personal view after the observation.
6 Ways to Get Better Soon when You’re Sad and Alone
Today I’d like to share how to feel better when you’re sad and alone. Note that feeling better doesn’t necessarily mean feeling happy. But it helps when the sadness is too overwhelming and you have no one around to console you. I’m a firm believer that all emotions need to be felt and acknowledged properly. Also, note that this post is in no way designed to distract your sadness as most contemporary happiness gurus tell you to do. Here are 6 ways to get better soon when you’re sad and alone:
