Category: Serious Stuff

This section is mainly for the observation and thoughts I have about life and people. In a mindful, serious manner. Mostly.

How to Discover Your Life’s Purpose: Questions to Ask about Yourself

Life, to some (or perhaps many?) people, is meaningless. They think everybody is going to die anyway, so why bother with it. There’s no purpose, they say. Some people brag about not wanting money and fame, and are excessively proud of their slow life. They think they’re hip and cool for being able to detach from the materialistic world by not having any aspirations. Slow life is good. But simply staring at the grass and clouds with no aspiration to develop and improve your talents, and then bragging about your so-called happy life, is not hip and cool. You’re wasting your potential. Here are some questions to ask about yourself to discover your life’s purpose.

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Destructive and Productive Things to Do After a Breakup

Breakups have become something normal to me. It’s no longer an earthquake-like event. It’s more like, oh, we’re not compatible, OK then, bye. But I’d still cry solitarily if I really like the person. Sometimes I’d cry for several days. Or weeks. Or months. In this post, I’d like to share what I know (from personal experiences, personal observation on friends’ experiences, and from reading books and articles) about how to deal with breakups. The first part is how to deal with it destructively and the second part is how to deal with it productively.

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How to Make New Friends for Introverted, Middle Aged People: 7 Tips

Study shows that healthy and close friendships stimulate positive mental health and well-being. Problem is, old friends may be having a different lifestyle, moving overseas, or anything that makes it difficult to maintain the friendship. Another problem is, some people, the introverted ones especially, don’t really enjoy socialising much. Here are 7 tips on how to make new friends as a middle-aged introverted/ambiverted person:

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What to Do When Your Parent(s) Hate/Dislike You

The topic of parents hating their children or vice versa has been taboo. All parents are expected to love their children unconditionally and so are the children. Through this post, I hope I can shed some light on this unpopular topic, about what to do when your parents hate/dislike you.

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Dealing With Rejection – Using Guacamole and Hummus

I believe the most painful rejection is the one that comes from lovers who seems to accept us at first, then later expels us. There are various reasons why someone rejects someone. In this post, I’ll discuss one possible reason someone may reject you: that you’re simply not their type. What to do with this type of rejection?

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How to Not Feel Lonely When You’re Alone

Humans are social creatures and enjoy socialising with other human beings. But many of us blindly assume that humans need to socialise all the time and therefore, being alone is often seen as being lonely. While being alone and being lonely can easily overlap, there’s a difference.

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How to Evoke Joy After a Stressful Day: 8 Ways

I wrote about being in touch with our uncomfortable emotions, but there are times when it’s too much and we just need an instant distraction to alleviate the uncomfortable emotions. Below are 8 ways you can use to evoke joy almost instantly, especially after a highly stressful day:

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Dealing with People We Don’t Like: 5 Tips

According to Jung’s theory, when we don’t like someone or certain people, it’s because there are aspects in them that trigger our shadow self, the part we try to hide from other people. However, I figured that the shadow-self theory is not the only reason when it comes to disliking or hating people. These will always be reasons – known or unknown – for people to dislike other people. They always exist. But acknowledging them is not enough. We have to know how to deal with them.

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