This section is mainly for the observation and thoughts I have about life and people. In a mindful, serious manner. Mostly.
Humans are social creatures and enjoy socialising with other human beings. But many of us blindly assume that humans need to socialise all the time and therefore, being alone is often seen as being lonely. While being alone and being lonely can easily overlap, thereās a difference.
Despite the (supposedly) inspirational movement of encouraging women to be proud of their no-makeup look, my view has been the same for over two decades now, that we should be proud of something we earn, something we work hard for, not something we got for free.
I wrote about being in touch with our uncomfortable emotions, but there are times when itās too much and we just need an instant distraction to alleviate the uncomfortable emotions. Below are 8 ways you can use to evoke joy almost instantly, especially after a highly stressful day:
Valentine’s Day… Love Day… a reminder to love yourself by being accountable: are you with the right partner? Are your needs met or do you ignore your needs just to make your partner happy? Or should you stay single forever?
According to Jungās theory, when we donāt like someone or certain people, itās because there are aspects in them that trigger our shadow self, the part we try to hide from other people. However, I figured that the shadow-self theory is not the only reason when it comes to disliking or hating people. These will always be reasons – known or unknown – for people to dislike other people. They always exist. But acknowledging them is not enough. We have to know how to deal with them.
The above quote came from Rumi, a 13th Century Persian poet, a Sufi mystic, who is also one of the most popular poets and ābest-selling poetā in the United States. While the quote can easily be interpreted differently, the meaning that I’ve understood so far is that, in the end, when our heart is broken, again and again, weāll reach to a point where we end up opening our heart… to ourselves.
To most people, crying is a big no-no. We are trained not to cry. We are trained to soothe other people who are crying by comforting them, confronting them, or diverting their sadness, just for them to stop crying. Despite the tendency of seeing crying as something negative, there have been studies showing the benefits of emotional crying.
Every human being experiences at least one emotional wound throughout their life. But if this wound is not resolved, not only it will impede their potential, but it will also be destructive over time.
If you ask me: āAre video games good or bad?ā, as a gamer, Iād answer: āOf course good.ā But my common sense would say, āDepends. Like anything in life, anything can be good or bad depending on how you use it.ā
Being happy is always a good feeling. Therefore, when faced with uncomfortable feelings, we often just get up and distract ourselves, hoping the uncomfortable feeling would go away. Because after all, happiness is a choice, right? We can choose to be happy. So what happens to the repressed feelings?
