Whenever I hear or read people’s obsession with happiness, that their life’s purpose is to be happy, I’d almost instantly go ‘ugh’. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t hate happiness. Happiness is important, but it’s not the endgame. The endgame should always be to realise our full potential, where happiness serves as a gauge of how close we are to realising our full potential.
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone: single, coupled, tripled, whatever and wherever you are. Here are some tips for you who celebrate or don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day.
Self-love is important for our well-being. Not loving ourselves will eventually harm our mental health and ultimately affect our physical health. Loving ourselves is not only good for our well-being, but it’s also good for those whom we care about, as we have more energy and positive thoughts when dealing with them. Here Are 8 Practical Tips on How to Practice Self-Love
Many of us, when we’ve done something embarrassing, unpleasant, or are simply having negative thoughts, often judge ourselves harshly, which inevitably makes us feel worse. Those who choose not to judge end up suppressing or repressing their ‘unpleasant parts’, not wanting to admit the existence of the unpleasant parts, let alone deal with them. These repressed unpleasant parts grow into what Carl Jung calls “shadows”. Over time, these shadows leak through snarky comments here and there or unexplained hatred towards innocent people. What I suggest is, if we are to judge ourselves, we should go ahead and judge ourselves. But we should do it properly: go all the way setting a court with at least three people in it: a judge, a plaintiff, a defendant. And probably some police officers, just in case the plaintiff or defendant gets into a fistfight or something.
The aim of this post is to introduce you to the basic concept of manipulation. It’s not designed to hate manipulators (as all of us can be potential manipulators), but rather to understand why they are what they are, do what they do, and how they operate. It may help you avoid getting manipulated and avoid manipulating people intentionally or unintentionally.
Study shows that healthy and close friendships stimulate positive mental health and well-being. Problem is, old friends may be having a different lifestyle, moving overseas, or anything that makes it difficult to maintain the friendship. Another problem is, some people, the introverted ones especially, don’t really enjoy socialising much. Here are 7 tips on how to make new friends as a middle-aged introverted/ambiverted person:
I believe the most painful rejection is the one that comes from lovers who seems to accept us at first, then later expels us. There are various reasons why someone rejects someone. In this post, I’ll discuss one possible reason someone may reject you: that you’re simply not their type. What to do with this type of rejection?
I wrote about being in touch with our uncomfortable emotions, but there are times when it’s too much and we just need an instant distraction to alleviate the uncomfortable emotions. Below are 8 ways you can use to evoke joy almost instantly, especially after a highly stressful day:
