All about improving ourselves to be better humans
Society warns that being single later in life must be lonely or miserable, but my experience tells a different story. Being single and not young anymore doesn’t have to be tragic. In fact, it can be the stage where you finally live by your own rules, pursue your own meaning, and experience joy that is entirely your own: steady, quiet, and deeply satisfying.
People tend to fall into three broad categories: some move with purpose, some chase illusions, and some are simply running away. These groups can be defined as:
North Star Navigators: Those who follow their true calling.
Tail Chasers: Those fixated on external success.
Escapists: Those avoiding reality altogether.
There’s something about modern civilisation that feels like it’s running on the wrong fuel. On one side, we’ve got the realist camp, obsessed with productivity and climbing the corporate ladder. On the other, the spiritual crowd who preach the power of manifestation—but often with a not-so-subtle disdain for 9-to-5 jobs. Both sides seem to be chasing the same thing—a ‘comfortable’ life—but they both tend to overlook individual’s spiritual signature.
Back in the cave days, everything was done collectively. Human survival depended on each other, so they had to huddle together to survive dangerous animals. There was no individualism. Everything must be done for the greater good. For everyone’s survival. Everyone was expected to be selfless. Fast forward now… where we no longer must huddle together to survive dangerous animals, selflessness that has been long glorified as a virtue, may be one of the roots of human misery.
I have plenty of ideas on how to celebrate Valentine’s Day for singles. Apart from giving ourselves flowers, chocolates, and a fancy dinner, I’d suggest writing a poem or a love letter for ourselves.
I’ve been wanting to write about how religious and spiritual people can have cult-like enthusiasm when it comes to spreading their beliefs and promising a happy life. Heck, even I can get into that enthusiasm too at times.
I’m a Fearless Woman, They Say Some friends still assume that I’m a fearless woman for standing up for myself: in school, in uni, and throughout my life. The assumption was confirmed even more strongly when they saw me moving to a country that doesn’t speak my language, leaving my long-term relationships and some short-term…
This article is about emotional allergies, where the allergic reaction is not triggered by food but by certain people or behaviors.
I hope that any of you who are still confused about what you want in life can consider taking my advice. Start by recognising the uniqueness you possess, master this uniqueness, and use it to solve people’s problems.
Whenever I hear or read people’s obsession with happiness, that their life’s purpose is to be happy, I’d almost instantly go ‘ugh’. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t hate happiness. Happiness is important, but it’s not the endgame. The endgame should always be to realise our full potential, where happiness serves as a gauge of how close we are to realising our full potential.
